Audition As A PORN STAR

We might all watch porn, but wanting to star in it is a different story -- for some of us at least. While the majority of the porn-watching population would rather keep their “sexploits” hidden between the sheets, there are the rare few who want to share their unclothed talents with the world. And this fantasy isn’t so hard to achieve, thanks to the advice of porn stars Ashlynn Brooke and Shane Diesel who tell all you aspiring “performers” everything you need to know about how to audition for a porn and get your foot (amongst other things) in the door.

Appearance

What kind of shape do you have to be in to audition for porn?Ashlynn: Fortunately, being that sex is the most natural thing in the world and everyone enjoys it, this also means that people are naturally attracted to all different body shapes, sizes, etc. I think as long as you love your body and take care of yourself, there's a certain amount of confidence and sexuality that shows through, and that will set you up for success. Be confident in your own skin!Shane: For a male it's better to be fit, athletic and well-groomed; if you look like you're fit, you most likely exercise. This carries over into your performance as far as endurance and stamina go; you don't have to look like a bodybuilder, you just need to posses a nice, fit package no matter what age you are.

Performance

Are you expected to perform on the spot when you audition for a porn? If so, are you expected to demonstrate the stamina/skills of a seasoned performer?Ashlynn: Yes, you’re expected to put forth a performance. Although the sex will be enjoyable, and everyone will have a great time, it isn't "home sex." There is a level of professionalism and eroticism needed to make the scene a good one.Shane: Yes! If you have the nerves to try to be in the adult biz, then you should be able to perform like a seasoned vet. Sure, it takes time to learn everything, but you have to remember you have a whole crew that's depending on you. Whatever the director orders you to do, try your best to give him or her as much time and open positions as they want in order to have a great scene.Are performance supplements accepted in the industry?Ashlynn: Most of the time, supplements aren't needed. Being that I'm a girl, I definitely never use them. However, there are times when the situation isn't exactly ideal for the performers (i.e., a scene in the desert that starts at 4 p.m. when the temperature is a smothering 95 degrees... and it’s lasting until 9 p.m. when the temperature has dropped to 40 degrees). To sum it up, they're not very common, but aren't looked down upon.Shane: Supplements -- yes, such as yohimbe, vitamin E, amino acids, ginseng, L-arginine, and saw palmetto. That’s a few, but there are many others that work well for other performers. If you are talking about Viagra or Cialis, then that’s something that’s not encouraged on sets, but if you need them, then you take them at your own risk and it's not provided for you.

Audition tips

Ron Jeremy told us that a man's only hope of getting past the audition phase is to go with a girl. Is this true?

Ashlynn: That is actually true to an extent. It's very helpful if the guy is requested by a girl/girls. It's a really good way for them to learn the way of the set, and it helps if they know the girl, making it a much easier experience for the "break" into the business.

Shane: That’s pretty much true; he is dead-on about that. She's your way in the door and your comfort zone. If she is your girlfriend, then you are more comfortable working with her, plus she knows the right buttons to push to take you over the top and she will help you keep that edge. It looks great walking into any room with a hot chick on your arm.

What are the grooming expectations when you audition for a porn?

Ashlynn: Just take care of yourself. Of course, everyone is different regarding hair, etc. Just keep up with basic personal hygiene on- and offset. I mean, who wouldn't do that anyways?

Shane: Keep it nice and clean please! The better groomed you are, the more the female talent will love to work with you and will often request you for other scenes. Even the camera man will love you for it.

Sexual limits

Do you have to be open to doing any kind of sex? How open-minded does one have to be?

Ashlynn: It's very important to keep an open mind onset. You're going to do things you never thought you would do normally, and still probably wouldn't do normally. But that's all part of the balance you should maintain separating work from you're day-to-day lifestyle.

Shane: It all depends on what kind of sex and how far you want to take it or how far they will allow you to take it. If you're pretty open-minded, then it's best to ask the director and the talent you are working with if certain things are OK to do, then take it from there. But never do anything that will make you look bad on camera that you will regret later.

On the other hand, what are the limits? Is there such a thing as being too open-minded or enthusiastic in an audition?

Ashlynn: Again, to each their own. What’s good for one person may not ever be good for the next. That's the beautiful and wonderful thing about this liberal business. We all love sex, and we all like it differently. No matter what, someone will like it. More than likely, thousands of somebodies will like it. Be yourself and do your thing. After all, who does "you" better than you?

Shane: Sure, there are limits, but try to come as close to them as possible. If you're enjoying it, just make sure you know the dos and don'ts of your talent and the director. Being enthusiastic is great and it shows well on camera.

STDs

Do you have to come with an STD test in hand?

Ashlynn: Absolutely. We take our health very seriously. We police ourselves to test once a month if not sooner. Plus, if you come with your test in hand it will show responsibility, commitment and desire to be a good performer.

Shane: Not always; it depends on the company you are working for. Most good companies will have your current test laid out on the table so the talent can check the date and status of the test, but it's always best to bring your own current test onset. You never know when someone might forget to print up your test and bring it onset. If there is no way to get valid proof, then the shoot will get canceled.

Getting the job

If the audition works out, what's the next step? Would one sign a contract on the spot?

Ashlynn: The next step is to take it easy, pay attention, get your foot in the door, then decide if this is right for you -- meaning how long you want to be in the business, what your goals are, and what you want to do with the rest of your life. Contracts are wonderful, but not everyone wants to go that route.

Shane: If all goes well, there is a good chance that you will be called back to do another scene for that company. It takes a few good scenes for a male performer to get signed and then there has to be something special about him that is marketable. If so, then the sky’s the limit; you could be off to a great start with a contract, or you could be like James Brown, the hardest-working man in the biz.

4 Effective Steps to Memorize A Name

Our names are so important to us. It’s on all our official documents, we answer proudly to it, we even learn to sign it with the flourish we think it merits. It’s flattering when someone remembers it -- and a little offensive when someone doesn’t:
The ability to recall other people's names is not only appreciated, it can also be both personally and professionally beneficial. Nonetheless, whether we meet 10 people or just one or two, we often have trouble remembering names -- despite their cultural importance. This occurs for a variety of reasons:

• Names are exchanged at the beginning of a conversation and not at the end, which is when we’d be more likely to recall them.
• We’re not paying a whole lot of attention, perhaps because we think we have no reason or desire to remember them.
• Because the names themselves typically don’t mean anything other than to signify that particular person and to give them a "title."

This last reason may be the most significant. A guy tells you his name is John because his father’s name was John. Well, who’s his father to you? Nobody. But if a scrawny guy introduces himself as Fatty and says his parents were big Fatty Arbuckle fans, now we’re getting somewhere.

Normally you won’t be so lucky, so the best method for memorizing the names of others lays in the following 4-step process, alternating reinforcement with the use of mnemonic devices and observational connections.

step 1
Repeat the name in the introductionThis is a basic and even obvious first step, but it demands inclusion. Doing so serves as the memory’s first reinforcement of the name, and it also happens to be good etiquette. Thus, whether it is following an introduction by a third person or the introduction is initiated by you or the other person, repeat their name in a simple, direct way, such as, “Todd, is it?” or “Nice to meet you, Mary.” Don't over-annunciate the name or make it obvious that you are repeating it for memorization purposes. Just make sure that you throw in the name at the beginning of the introduction again, or pepper it throughout your discussion at opportune moments to remind yourself and keep your mind focused on the name.

step 2
Apply a suitable deviceYour next step is an internal one: Apply a mnemonic device to the name itself in a second effort at reinforcement. Here there are a number of options at your disposal. Which device you choose to use is whatever works best for you. Such a device may be most effective when it isn’t the most obvious, or when it asks your brain to operate in a manner to which it isn’t accustomed. Some options include:
Make a rhyme.
Write it down. The simple act of jotting it down can be all you’ll need to memorize a name, although you may consider writing it down with your weaker hand. It won’t look pretty, but it’ll take longer and will demand more concentration.
Spell the name backwards in your head. Similar to the aspect of a field sobriety test that asks you to recite the alphabet backwards, doing this requires an unconventional mental action and will have you concentrating on the name fully.

step 3
Immediately put the name to workUse the name the first time you address the person beyond the introduction, such as, “So, Todd, Alex tells me…” or “Mary, did you say you went to Penn State?” Here you run the risk of looking like a moron if you repeatedly use the name -- we’ve all met those people before -- so beyond some necessity, cut it off here until you say goodbye, and then employ the name one last time.This type of repetition and reinforcement has merit: In the oral tradition of Homer’s Iliad, names are repeated regularly and are sometimes assigned descriptive epithets that help the listener associate certain traits with certain characters.

step 4
Make a physical connectionFinally, keep in mind that our visual memory is strong; after all, you hear “I never forget a face” far more often than “I never forget a name.” So, in the final step, give that visual recollection the task of tagging the name together with some conspicuous or prominent aspect. A human face has yet to be born without some hook or tweak on which to hang your observational associations. For example:Eyes (shape, color, expressiveness or emptiness, shiftiness, intensity); eyebrows (uni-brow, bushy, thin, arched); or a short forehead, a shocking chin, a dramatic double curve of the upper lip (called Cupid’s bow), or any distinguishing feature at all that you can tie to the name. Should the face fail you, seek out other less ostensibly visual characteristics, such as manner of speaking (accent, lisp, nasal, good diction, loud, soft-spoken) or word choice (pretentious terms, odd synonyms, slang, cursing, using your name in excess).

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Sleeping With A Friend

Billy Crystal was right. Well not Crystal precisely, but his character in When Harry Met Sally. He said the reason men and women can’t be friends is "because the sex part always gets in the way." Think of all your female friendships; chances are it started off because one of you was attracted enough to the other to strike up a conversation. When it’s obvious from the beginning that there is no chance romantically, the relationship evolves platonically. However, sometimes friends end up doing all the same things as lovers; late-night phone calls, dinner dates, movie nights on the couch, and then, sex.

Now the deed is done. Sex is the elephant in the room. With sex comes feelings, emotions and, possibly, regret. You want to keep your relationship on the friendship level, but there is a possibility she'll want more. So, how do you remain pals and nothing more?

Here is a simple plan for the days, weeks and months that follow your jump from friend to lover. Make sure to follow these steps in order, keep on course and the game of friendship should remain as strong as it was before the sexual timeout.

The morning after

It’s the morning after and you wake up in bed together. If it’s a weekday, making a clean break shouldn’t be a problem because you both have to get to work. Once you get into the office, wait about an hour and shoot her an e-mail joking about the previous evening’s events, and then immediately switch topics. You must acknowledge it occurred so she doesn’t feel used, but you shouldn’t dwell on it or she'll think it’s something more than it was -- a simple one-time event. Don’t let the talk dip into the dirty regions either. Don’t use a pet name or nickname. Give her back her underwear. Act like a friend. Unless you traded undies as friends, then by all means, carry on.

If it’s a weekend, the split could be trickier than a 7-10 in slippery bowling shoes. You must not extend the day into an afternoon of antiquing and small talk over iced coffee. But, don’t go for the obvious "I have things to do" excuse because she probably knows your life better than you do. Casually mention things you have to take care of in a solo mission; the gym she doesn’t belong to, going to the office to finish some work or a trip to see the parents. Make plans to hang out that week in a friendly situation, something you’ve done together many times before you danced the horizontal mambo so she knows this wasn’t a hit-and-run.

A week after

Some time has passed and it’s time for the next step. An important move to ensure you remain friends after sex is not to sleep together again. Lord knows it will be tempting and possibly available. One time is a mistake in a moment of attraction; two or more times appear as something much bigger. The first step is to stop thinking of her in that way -- or in that position. Fall back into the friendship. Keep everything as normal as possible. If you always talk after The Hills, make sure you talk after The Hills (then ask a close male friend to punch you in the throat for watching The Hills in the first place). If you grab coffee before work, keep your coffee meeting. The point is not to change the typical friend routine.

It’s important not to do anything that could be misinterpreted. If you have an upcoming event that involves a date, don’t bring her along. Always introduce her to strangers as your "good friend." Don’t get jealous if she happens to mention another guy or if she gets hit on in your presence. Don’t make inside jokes about the night you shared. And stop picturing her in that position.

Months after

It’s important in this step to begin to talk about other women, even if there really aren’t any other women to speak of. Mention that a female coworker asked you out or drop hints that a woman at the gym is giving you bedroom eyes. Ask her about other guys too. See how she reacts. If she goes right back to criticizing your taste in women and encourages you to make a move, it looks like you're in the clear.

Also, don’t disappear on her. Sure, it’s easy to run from an uncomfortable situation, but then were you really a friend to begin with? The topic of your night of bumping uglies will eventually come up. It’s on her mind (only every minute of the day since it happened) and it’s crossed your mind too. Talk it out. She may be just as uninterested in turning it into a relationship as you are. You could have been just a quickie for her too. Be honest and tell her how you feel.

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Conversation Topics That Lead To Sex

Most will argue that the most difficult step in securing a lovely vixen for the evening is the approach, but veterans realize the ensuing discussion is just as -- if not more -- intimidating. The obstacle in question is a logical one, but one that typically goes unnoticed by the untrained: as she is indeed a perfect stranger, her likes and dislikes remain a mystery. Feeling around in the dark for her favorite topics of conversation can be both challenging and risky, especially if your goal for the night centers on the loss of that hot cocktail dress. Conversations that lead to sex are launching platforms and work toward altering her mindset to match yours. If executed correctly, she’ll want to finish the discussion early and move on to more physical relations.

Favorite foods

It may sound like a ho-hum topic, but like most other seemingly innocuous pieces of advice the Player has at his disposal, it’s an effective means to an end. It’s up to you to broach the conversation, but once it’s going, the direction of the discussion should be clear: you’re in a club or bar, which likely doesn’t feature any of her favorite foods. Perhaps she has a weakness for authentic Chinese food (none of that over-fried meat Americans think is Chinese food)? And yep, you know just where to get some. Clearly, the goal is to separate her from the current location; get her alone and the rest should take care of itself. Better yet, if you’re not a bad cook and she mentions something doable, you could always insist on making it for her. Don’t suggest it for that night (that's too transparent), but how about next weekend?

If you have a passion, flaunt it

There’s one thing that’s beginning to fall by the wayside, and women seem to be especially in tune to this lacking. For some reason, ambition and motivation appears to be at an all-time low amongst the 20-somethings out there, which means if you have a particular passion, flaunt it. Here’s one universal rule: women find passionate men attractive. If you are passionate about your work or your favorite hobby, there’s a damn good chance you inject that amount of emotional force into other aspects of your life. It doesn’t have to be anything sexy or even remotely feminine in nature; you could be a total gearhead, or maybe your passion is something like camping. Don’t talk her ear off; just get a little animated and get that sparkle in your eye. She’ll take notice, and she’ll want to learn more about you.

Sex

This may seem too forward, but you’ll want to be covert in establishing this particular conversation topic that leads to sex. You don’t want to be detailed or graphic, and you certainly don’t want to get personal too early. These approaches will lead to a collapse of the conversation, which you can easily spot by examining her body language. She’ll start to draw away, her eyes will shift, her answers will be abrupt and clipped, and obviously, she’s seconds from bailing. However, you can avoid this if you have a humorous story that only indirectly ties in with sex, or you can try delving into the more intellectual and societal aspects of the topic. You could talk about the constantly changing night scene, how different women have drastically different viewpoints on the subject and you should do it all without risking the scary, creepy guy label. Just be light and casual, and be ready with an easy laugh.

Something taboo

Depending on the type of woman sitting next to you, you could try something taboo in an effort to seal the deal with no wasted words. However, before trying this, you need to establish a safe base of operations; you have to feel around to see if she’ll be receptive. The wrong woman can send a drink up your nose if you’re not careful, so take a few minutes to make the correct assessment. Once you’ve done this, and you think she’ll respond to your taboo topics with a sly grin and a wink, you can select from any number of sexy subjects. Perhaps it can be something simple, like the concept of “friends with benefits” (always a Player favorite), or you can launch into a more exotic tact that consists of threesomes, role-playing and fantasies. Again, though, do what you can to keep it light. If she latches on, the heat will indefinitely arrive later.

Conversation topics that lead to sex rely heavily on your ability to begin and carry a discussion, so that’s paramount. Regardless of the chosen topic, you need to be engaging, affable and, in the end, desirable. Obviously, not all women will respond in the same way, but with the preceding ideas, you should be able to spark a conversation that doesn’t officially end until the next morning.

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Top Ten of Signs She's Flirting

Flirting is an important behavior that is both complex and fundamental. Everyone in the world, at some point in their lives will need to acquaint themselves with the art of flirtation if they want to experience the pleasures of the opposite sex. While there are mountains of advice to guide men on how to flirt effectively, that’s only half the story.

Men must also be able to recognize the signs she's flirting. While any one of these visual cues taken alone often won't constitute a green light, a combination of multiple flirtatious cues should pique your interest.

So, we've decided to lay down some distinct signs she's flirting with you, so you can recognize the bait she's laid for your affections. Women can sometimes be hard to read, but if you're armed with a guide to signs she's flirting, then you're already one step ahead.

Sign #1 : She smiles

When a woman has an interest in you, her smile can hold your attention from across a crowded room and it is definitely one of the major signs she's flirting. It takes an effort on her part to do so, so if she’s exerting this kind of effort, engage in her flirting by returning the smile.

Sign #2 : She keeps walking by

If it seems like she continues to walk by with apparently no sense of why she’s there, she’s there for you. She’s trying to get you to notice her with this obvious sign she's flirting, and you need to say something endearing. By walking past repeatedly, perhaps out of her way, she’s giving you a sense that she wants your attention, but she's making you work for it.

Sign #3 : She draws attention to her mouth

A woman’s mouth can be extremely seductive, and she’s fully aware of this fact. Some of the effective signs she's flirting will have her applying lip gloss, running her finger across her lip or using the straw in her cocktail instead of just sipping from the glass. There is a tremendous amount of flirtatious energy tied up in a woman’s lips. Lips are flirting tools that are both potent and effective.

Sign #4 : She isolates herself

If, after having made eye contact, she strays from her pack, then she’s trying to flirt with you. Women know that the most difficult defense for a man to penetrate is her wall of friends and well-wishers. If she’s specifically removing herself from that fortress then this is one of the sure signs she's flirting and letting you know she’s lowering her defensive barriers to let you in.

Sign #5 : She mimics your body movements

For some reason, when human beings are interested or infatuated with each other, they begin to pick up certain traits from the other person. If she’s mimicking your mannerisms -- the way you hold a drink or the way you’re sitting -- she may very well be interested in gaining your attention and is giving you solid signs she's flirting. Imitation is a rather high form of flattery, after all.

Sign #6 : She plays with her hair

While relatively simple and commonplace, in the right hands a woman's hair is a versatile weapon. When trying to get your attention, she may twirl her hair in her fingers or let it cascade in front of one eye, adding a sense of come-hither mystery to her persona.

Sign #7 : She touches you

The slight touch that sends chills up both your spines and makes your hair stand on end is one of the hallmark signs she's flirting. When she reaches out and lightly touches your forearm or shoulder, hand or wrist, you know you have a live one. You need to reciprocate because there are few clearer signs she can provide.

Sign #8 : She makes eye contact

It has been said that the eyes are the windows to the soul, and that through the eyes truth can be gleamed. Eye contact is a sign of confidence and trust. She’s stating that she is not interested in games and that her intentions are straightforward. The duration of the eye contact is proportional to her level of initial interest.

Sign #9 : She enters your personal space

Personal space, by definition, is where others are not. When a woman enters this space, say, brushing past you with a glance and a smile, she’s inviting a response with this sure sign she's flirting. The caliber and character of her invasion will give you cues as to how you should respond.

Sign #10 : She approaches you to talk

Her approach may be closely tied to No. 2, but this cue takes it a step further. Cutting through any game she may be playing, her approach and specific engagement by speaking is playing her strongest flirting card. It allows her, while speaking to you, to maintain eye contact, play with her hair, lightly touch you, and mimic your mannerisms among other flirting techniques. If she’s come over to talk to you, she wants to know what you’re all about. It’s the first step in an interview process called dating.

While it may not seem like it to the average man, women flirt and spend as much time obsessing over their actions as their male counterparts. Since that’s the case, it would behoove any man to not only hone his own flirting skills, but sharpen his observational skills as well.

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