How do you feel when guys check out your boobs?

Last night at an event honoring Michael Douglas, his father Kirk was caught gazing upon Catherine Zeta-Jones' breasts. She has a lovely décolletage and bountiful cleavage, but an older man checking out his daughter-in-law's rack? Kinda creepy.The "my-eyes-are-up-here" phenomenon is one that has probably existed since the beginning of time and will never go away. Men see boobs and they can't help but look. Whether we wear a turtleneck or a low-cut top with a push-up bra, guys like checking out our boobs.While looking through photos my friend took at my birthday dinner, I noticed a picture of my boyfriend staring at my chest. It was hilarious! Obviously, he's my boyfriend, so I'm not embarrassed or annoyed, I just think it's funny that he was caught on camera taking a peek. On the other hand, in real world situations when I detect a stranger--particularly a much older man--distracted and looking at my boobs I am completely grossed out and feel uncomfortable.Many women go out in revealing shirts with the exact intention of grabbing a man's attention, so why is it that in certain instances a guy taking a look makes us feel angry, annoyed or disgusted?How do you react when you catch a guy looking at your boobs?

Why Do We Have One Night Stands?

What is the purpose of the one-night stand? Does it accomplish anything? I don't condone one-night stands; for me they've led to awkwardness, and self-loathing (of course I'm filled with self loathing without sex in my life, so what's the difference?).
I'm reluctant to accept "I was drunk" as the sole reason for a one night stand. Alcohol contributes to risky behavior or clouds judgment. As a depressant, it also enhances negative emotions. In light of this, there are temporary mindsets we should not mix with alcohol--mindsets that make us more vulnerable and prone to a one night stand.
Here they are:
Lonely Mentality
Sex can seem like a quick fix for loneliness. It's not that we feel validated when we have sex, but it is nice to know that we are attractive. That physical and mental intimacy, while fleeting, is nice in the moment. Unfortunately, though, when that person leaves your life, your loneliness intensifies.
Vengeful Mentality
It's pretty twisted, but sex can be used for revenge. Sleeping with that jerky ex's best friend, or some other "strategic" person to hurt someone else is the M.O. However, using people to hurt other people will only lead to a bad outcome.
Risk-taking Mentality
You know those periods in your life you're more inclined to take risks? Sex is sometimes risky behavior, along with drugs, alcohol, etc. It's unhealthy to take risks that impact the body and mind, but it's also thrilling.
Desiring Mentality
It's not always mental. Sometimes you just want to get laid. Unfortunately, for me, when I want to get laid, I don't. When I don't feel like getting laid, suddenly opportunities abound.
Liberated Mentality
You think you're over your ex, so you run out and exercise your rights to freedom. But if you're going to an extreme, such as having a one night stand, to prove you're over someone, then you are probably not really over them.
Closing the Loop Mentality
There are some people in your life with sexual tension. Things should have happened, but circumstances didn't permit at the time. All of a sudden, you've got an opportunity and you both know you have to do it. It's all about getting it out of your system.
I've had three one night stands in my life. They can all be traced back to a mentality above:
College - Freedom Mentality/Revenge Mentality - I had just broken up with my first serious girlfriend and I met a random girl at a party and slept with her, partially because I was free to do so, and partially because I wanted to (pun intended) stick it to my ex.
Italy - Risk-taking Mentality - Living abroad in Italy for two months, "what happened in Italy stayed in Italy". This was the most random encounter I ever had with a girl from Xavier University. That's the only thing I knew about her, that she attended Xavier.
High School Friend - Closing the Loop - I ended up having a one night stand with a girl I had dated in high school years later. We flirted for years and finally got the whole thing out of our systems.
The mindsets outlined above are about vulnerability. When we go away from home, feeling lonely, or just got dumped, the vulnerability feeds the one-night stand mentalities. The alarming thing is that there are guys out there who know how to sense this mindset in a woman. They intentionally look for vulnerable women with sex in mind, but no intention of dating or communicating afterward.
The other ingredient, of course, is animal attraction. But this attraction lives in us every day. We only act upon it when our mentality dictates it. So, I contend that a one night stand is 90% mental, even though it's a physical act.
I have outgrown one night stands. Sex without connection, laughter, love, compatibility, and mutual experience is empty. This explains why it's awkward the next day when everyone comes back down to earth.
Do you agree that one night stands are mostly mental? What mentalities would you add to the list, and what kinds of experiences have you or your friends had with one night stands? Did you ever have any that turned out well, or didn't lead to negative self-perception?

Getting Along With Your Ex-Wife

If you're a divorced man, by definition you have an ex-wife. You may or may not have children. Regardless, odds are that there is still some form of interaction between the two of you, even if only strictly for business (i.e., alimony). The interaction is almost guaranteed if you had children during your marriage. Certainly, you may harbor horrible feelings and sentiments for the woman that ruined your life, but it's time to grow up and reap the benefits of being civil and getting along with your ex-wife.

A cordial relationship will make for fewer awkward social meetings, make her more flexible when there is something to be negotiated or discussed, and make your future dating life easier, not to mention that getting along with your ex-wife will simply help keep you younger. Here are some suggestions on how to keep the relationship open -- without getting back together, of course.

Kill her with kindness

We've all heard this phrase before, and for the most part it's true. Typically in a

divorce, both parties have some problems that contributed to the demise of the marriage. You should take stock of your negative traits and then reverse the situation on your ex-wife. If you were always late showing up to events, be on time or even early. If you were great at hiding things, make an effort to be open, particularly with financially related matters.It may be no fun, but if you can work toward squashing her doubts about you it will make things much easier going forward in terms of issues like alimony and child support. For instance, you do not need her auditing your finances every year and asking for each of your pay stubs. If you create a trusting atmosphere, with boundaries, you will find a great deal of flexibility, which greatly alleviates the already stressful situation.

Be professional and objective

Although it can be an emotionally charged situation, you should make sure your correspondence with your ex-wife is strictly business in tone. Although certain issues or discussions may arouse some very strong feelings,

control your emotions and do not go down the road of personal insults or attacks when dealing with your ex-wife. Pick neutral, public sites to discuss big matters. Always be on time for your meetings, when you pick up the kids and when you send items such as child support and alimony. Most importantly, if a discussion deteriorates from professional and objective to emotionally charged, cut your losses and suggest reconvening when the dust clears. If you treat the situation more business-like, it is more likely to be reciprocated and end on a civil note rather than a negative falling out between the two of you.

Keep your opinions to yourself

You may hate her new boyfriend or think her decisions make no sense, but take the high road and keep your opinions to yourself when dealing with your ex-wife. Even if you have children together, your lives are no longer joined at the hip and each party has the right to make independent decisions. You may want to spout off, but ultimately you may find she was right and you were wrong. Even worse, if you do always give her your two cents and then you make a mistake, that will really give her something to laugh about -- and you'll lose almost all credibility going forward.

Be thoughtful

Even when both sides want the divorce and it ends relatively amicably, there is always

emotional baggage left over. You may want to flaunt your new perfect-10 girlfriend, but consider holding back. If you have the kids for the weekend, take some extra time to wash the dirty laundry: Sending the kids back with a bag of clean clothes will pick you up some points. Overall, despite your failed relationship, both of you are still human. Being thoughtful and courteous will make it easier to communicate about parenting issues and potentially amaze those in your social circle.

Live your life

The two of you used to be one, but now you are one and alone. Have the courage to make your own decisions and focus on yourself and your life. Occasionally, you may get some heat from your ex about your parenting skills, dating choices or lifestyle choices, but in the end, her doubts about those are her problems. Making your own choices sets healthy boundaries and ultimately may earn you some respect -- possibly to the point where she will not question every move you make.

Ex-tra marital affairs

Nobody grows up wishing they will one day be a divorcee or a single parent. Even when both sides are in agreement about moving on, it typically tends to be more of a sad, humbling experience rather than cause for celebration. Particularly if there are financial matters or children involved, your ex-wife will always be in the picture. So, make it easier on yourself by taking a little extra effort to keep the relationship with your ex amicable and respectable.

5 Reasons Not To Sleep With A Virgin

Taking a girl’s virginity is a popular male fantasy, but if they stopped to consider the reality of the situation, the fantasy might start to look more like a nightmare. It may be an ego boost to imagine being a girl’s first and taking her precious virginity, bookmarking yourself in the annexes of her mind forever. However, there are aspects of making her a woman that could be less than pleasurable. So, before you unlock that chastity belt, get an idea of what you’re getting yourself into. Here are five reasons not to sleep with a virgin that you should consider before taking the plunge.

1- There’s extra prep work

Unlike a more experienced woman, a virgin really doesn’t know what to expect. This means that you’re going to have to put in some effort before the deed is done and plan ahead to make sure that she’s comfortable and completely willing. It may take some considerable convincing on your part to get her into bed, and while that isn't one of our five reasons not to sleep with a virgin, your seduction skills will certainly be put to the test when it comes to taking a girl’s virginity. Also, the older she is, the harder it will be. If she has managed to protect her virginity all through high school and into her 20s, it will be that much more difficult to persuade her that she should give it up to you.

2- There’s a freak-out potential

When it comes to having sex with a virgin, the potential for her to freak out before, during or after the sex act is quite high. She may decide at the last minute that she doesn’t want to go through with it or she may feel massively guilty afterward for having done it. Because so much importance is put on her virginity, her first time is bound to be an emotional experience, which means that you might have to deal with panic, sadness, guilt, and other unpleasant reactions. She has probably imagined the event for a long time and wants it to go absolutely perfectly. If even the slightest thing doesn’t go according to plan, it could result in tears and tantrums. If you don’t like watching girls cry, don’t sleep with virgins. That’s a lot of pressure and that’s why it’s among our five reasons not to sleep with a virgin.

3- She’ll likely get attached

It is fairly likely that a recently devirginized girl will expect to have a lasting relationship with the guy that bedded her. If you’re not planning on becoming her boyfriend, or at least continuing to date her, don’t sleep with her. It’s really that simple. Very few girls imagine their first time with someone who drops off the face of the earth immediately afterward, never to be heard from again. She’s going to want you to stick around, so if a relationship is not in your plan, consider this point in our list of five reasons not to sleep with a virgin and find someone else to share your bed.

4- She lacks skills

Since she’s inexperienced, she’s probably not going to be that good in bed, and that’s a big reason not to sleep with a

virgin. There are exceptions to this rule, of course, since there are plenty of skills a girl can learn before she loses her actual virginity. If, however, she has little experience with sexual activity in general, the encounter is not going to be all that pleasurable for you. If all you want is the power trip that comes from taking her virginity, then you’re golden, but if you want a mutually satisfying sexual experience, you should look for someone who has had time to develop some sexual skills.

5- It could get messy

There is a possibility that having sex with a virgin could literally make a mess of your sheets. Being penetrated for the first time is likely to hurt her and it could result in some bleeding. If the sight of blood makes you squeamish, devirginizing a girl is not for you. A woman’s first

sexual experience can leave a very unsexy mess to clean up.

where no man has gone before

As you can see, taking a girl’s virginity is not all that it’s cracked up to be. There are groundwork concerns, emotional issues, commitment questions, technique problems, and other more tangible messes to deal with. So perhaps you should leave the devirginizing to the high school boys and look for a sexual encounter that isn’t quite so complicated.

Audition As A PORN STAR

We might all watch porn, but wanting to star in it is a different story -- for some of us at least. While the majority of the porn-watching population would rather keep their “sexploits” hidden between the sheets, there are the rare few who want to share their unclothed talents with the world. And this fantasy isn’t so hard to achieve, thanks to the advice of porn stars Ashlynn Brooke and Shane Diesel who tell all you aspiring “performers” everything you need to know about how to audition for a porn and get your foot (amongst other things) in the door.

Appearance

What kind of shape do you have to be in to audition for porn?Ashlynn: Fortunately, being that sex is the most natural thing in the world and everyone enjoys it, this also means that people are naturally attracted to all different body shapes, sizes, etc. I think as long as you love your body and take care of yourself, there's a certain amount of confidence and sexuality that shows through, and that will set you up for success. Be confident in your own skin!Shane: For a male it's better to be fit, athletic and well-groomed; if you look like you're fit, you most likely exercise. This carries over into your performance as far as endurance and stamina go; you don't have to look like a bodybuilder, you just need to posses a nice, fit package no matter what age you are.

Performance

Are you expected to perform on the spot when you audition for a porn? If so, are you expected to demonstrate the stamina/skills of a seasoned performer?Ashlynn: Yes, you’re expected to put forth a performance. Although the sex will be enjoyable, and everyone will have a great time, it isn't "home sex." There is a level of professionalism and eroticism needed to make the scene a good one.Shane: Yes! If you have the nerves to try to be in the adult biz, then you should be able to perform like a seasoned vet. Sure, it takes time to learn everything, but you have to remember you have a whole crew that's depending on you. Whatever the director orders you to do, try your best to give him or her as much time and open positions as they want in order to have a great scene.Are performance supplements accepted in the industry?Ashlynn: Most of the time, supplements aren't needed. Being that I'm a girl, I definitely never use them. However, there are times when the situation isn't exactly ideal for the performers (i.e., a scene in the desert that starts at 4 p.m. when the temperature is a smothering 95 degrees... and it’s lasting until 9 p.m. when the temperature has dropped to 40 degrees). To sum it up, they're not very common, but aren't looked down upon.Shane: Supplements -- yes, such as yohimbe, vitamin E, amino acids, ginseng, L-arginine, and saw palmetto. That’s a few, but there are many others that work well for other performers. If you are talking about Viagra or Cialis, then that’s something that’s not encouraged on sets, but if you need them, then you take them at your own risk and it's not provided for you.

Audition tips

Ron Jeremy told us that a man's only hope of getting past the audition phase is to go with a girl. Is this true?

Ashlynn: That is actually true to an extent. It's very helpful if the guy is requested by a girl/girls. It's a really good way for them to learn the way of the set, and it helps if they know the girl, making it a much easier experience for the "break" into the business.

Shane: That’s pretty much true; he is dead-on about that. She's your way in the door and your comfort zone. If she is your girlfriend, then you are more comfortable working with her, plus she knows the right buttons to push to take you over the top and she will help you keep that edge. It looks great walking into any room with a hot chick on your arm.

What are the grooming expectations when you audition for a porn?

Ashlynn: Just take care of yourself. Of course, everyone is different regarding hair, etc. Just keep up with basic personal hygiene on- and offset. I mean, who wouldn't do that anyways?

Shane: Keep it nice and clean please! The better groomed you are, the more the female talent will love to work with you and will often request you for other scenes. Even the camera man will love you for it.

Sexual limits

Do you have to be open to doing any kind of sex? How open-minded does one have to be?

Ashlynn: It's very important to keep an open mind onset. You're going to do things you never thought you would do normally, and still probably wouldn't do normally. But that's all part of the balance you should maintain separating work from you're day-to-day lifestyle.

Shane: It all depends on what kind of sex and how far you want to take it or how far they will allow you to take it. If you're pretty open-minded, then it's best to ask the director and the talent you are working with if certain things are OK to do, then take it from there. But never do anything that will make you look bad on camera that you will regret later.

On the other hand, what are the limits? Is there such a thing as being too open-minded or enthusiastic in an audition?

Ashlynn: Again, to each their own. What’s good for one person may not ever be good for the next. That's the beautiful and wonderful thing about this liberal business. We all love sex, and we all like it differently. No matter what, someone will like it. More than likely, thousands of somebodies will like it. Be yourself and do your thing. After all, who does "you" better than you?

Shane: Sure, there are limits, but try to come as close to them as possible. If you're enjoying it, just make sure you know the dos and don'ts of your talent and the director. Being enthusiastic is great and it shows well on camera.

STDs

Do you have to come with an STD test in hand?

Ashlynn: Absolutely. We take our health very seriously. We police ourselves to test once a month if not sooner. Plus, if you come with your test in hand it will show responsibility, commitment and desire to be a good performer.

Shane: Not always; it depends on the company you are working for. Most good companies will have your current test laid out on the table so the talent can check the date and status of the test, but it's always best to bring your own current test onset. You never know when someone might forget to print up your test and bring it onset. If there is no way to get valid proof, then the shoot will get canceled.

Getting the job

If the audition works out, what's the next step? Would one sign a contract on the spot?

Ashlynn: The next step is to take it easy, pay attention, get your foot in the door, then decide if this is right for you -- meaning how long you want to be in the business, what your goals are, and what you want to do with the rest of your life. Contracts are wonderful, but not everyone wants to go that route.

Shane: If all goes well, there is a good chance that you will be called back to do another scene for that company. It takes a few good scenes for a male performer to get signed and then there has to be something special about him that is marketable. If so, then the sky’s the limit; you could be off to a great start with a contract, or you could be like James Brown, the hardest-working man in the biz.

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Sleeping With A Friend

Billy Crystal was right. Well not Crystal precisely, but his character in When Harry Met Sally. He said the reason men and women can’t be friends is "because the sex part always gets in the way." Think of all your female friendships; chances are it started off because one of you was attracted enough to the other to strike up a conversation. When it’s obvious from the beginning that there is no chance romantically, the relationship evolves platonically. However, sometimes friends end up doing all the same things as lovers; late-night phone calls, dinner dates, movie nights on the couch, and then, sex.

Now the deed is done. Sex is the elephant in the room. With sex comes feelings, emotions and, possibly, regret. You want to keep your relationship on the friendship level, but there is a possibility she'll want more. So, how do you remain pals and nothing more?

Here is a simple plan for the days, weeks and months that follow your jump from friend to lover. Make sure to follow these steps in order, keep on course and the game of friendship should remain as strong as it was before the sexual timeout.

The morning after

It’s the morning after and you wake up in bed together. If it’s a weekday, making a clean break shouldn’t be a problem because you both have to get to work. Once you get into the office, wait about an hour and shoot her an e-mail joking about the previous evening’s events, and then immediately switch topics. You must acknowledge it occurred so she doesn’t feel used, but you shouldn’t dwell on it or she'll think it’s something more than it was -- a simple one-time event. Don’t let the talk dip into the dirty regions either. Don’t use a pet name or nickname. Give her back her underwear. Act like a friend. Unless you traded undies as friends, then by all means, carry on.

If it’s a weekend, the split could be trickier than a 7-10 in slippery bowling shoes. You must not extend the day into an afternoon of antiquing and small talk over iced coffee. But, don’t go for the obvious "I have things to do" excuse because she probably knows your life better than you do. Casually mention things you have to take care of in a solo mission; the gym she doesn’t belong to, going to the office to finish some work or a trip to see the parents. Make plans to hang out that week in a friendly situation, something you’ve done together many times before you danced the horizontal mambo so she knows this wasn’t a hit-and-run.

A week after

Some time has passed and it’s time for the next step. An important move to ensure you remain friends after sex is not to sleep together again. Lord knows it will be tempting and possibly available. One time is a mistake in a moment of attraction; two or more times appear as something much bigger. The first step is to stop thinking of her in that way -- or in that position. Fall back into the friendship. Keep everything as normal as possible. If you always talk after The Hills, make sure you talk after The Hills (then ask a close male friend to punch you in the throat for watching The Hills in the first place). If you grab coffee before work, keep your coffee meeting. The point is not to change the typical friend routine.

It’s important not to do anything that could be misinterpreted. If you have an upcoming event that involves a date, don’t bring her along. Always introduce her to strangers as your "good friend." Don’t get jealous if she happens to mention another guy or if she gets hit on in your presence. Don’t make inside jokes about the night you shared. And stop picturing her in that position.

Months after

It’s important in this step to begin to talk about other women, even if there really aren’t any other women to speak of. Mention that a female coworker asked you out or drop hints that a woman at the gym is giving you bedroom eyes. Ask her about other guys too. See how she reacts. If she goes right back to criticizing your taste in women and encourages you to make a move, it looks like you're in the clear.

Also, don’t disappear on her. Sure, it’s easy to run from an uncomfortable situation, but then were you really a friend to begin with? The topic of your night of bumping uglies will eventually come up. It’s on her mind (only every minute of the day since it happened) and it’s crossed your mind too. Talk it out. She may be just as uninterested in turning it into a relationship as you are. You could have been just a quickie for her too. Be honest and tell her how you feel.

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Conversation Topics That Lead To Sex

Most will argue that the most difficult step in securing a lovely vixen for the evening is the approach, but veterans realize the ensuing discussion is just as -- if not more -- intimidating. The obstacle in question is a logical one, but one that typically goes unnoticed by the untrained: as she is indeed a perfect stranger, her likes and dislikes remain a mystery. Feeling around in the dark for her favorite topics of conversation can be both challenging and risky, especially if your goal for the night centers on the loss of that hot cocktail dress. Conversations that lead to sex are launching platforms and work toward altering her mindset to match yours. If executed correctly, she’ll want to finish the discussion early and move on to more physical relations.

Favorite foods

It may sound like a ho-hum topic, but like most other seemingly innocuous pieces of advice the Player has at his disposal, it’s an effective means to an end. It’s up to you to broach the conversation, but once it’s going, the direction of the discussion should be clear: you’re in a club or bar, which likely doesn’t feature any of her favorite foods. Perhaps she has a weakness for authentic Chinese food (none of that over-fried meat Americans think is Chinese food)? And yep, you know just where to get some. Clearly, the goal is to separate her from the current location; get her alone and the rest should take care of itself. Better yet, if you’re not a bad cook and she mentions something doable, you could always insist on making it for her. Don’t suggest it for that night (that's too transparent), but how about next weekend?

If you have a passion, flaunt it

There’s one thing that’s beginning to fall by the wayside, and women seem to be especially in tune to this lacking. For some reason, ambition and motivation appears to be at an all-time low amongst the 20-somethings out there, which means if you have a particular passion, flaunt it. Here’s one universal rule: women find passionate men attractive. If you are passionate about your work or your favorite hobby, there’s a damn good chance you inject that amount of emotional force into other aspects of your life. It doesn’t have to be anything sexy or even remotely feminine in nature; you could be a total gearhead, or maybe your passion is something like camping. Don’t talk her ear off; just get a little animated and get that sparkle in your eye. She’ll take notice, and she’ll want to learn more about you.

Sex

This may seem too forward, but you’ll want to be covert in establishing this particular conversation topic that leads to sex. You don’t want to be detailed or graphic, and you certainly don’t want to get personal too early. These approaches will lead to a collapse of the conversation, which you can easily spot by examining her body language. She’ll start to draw away, her eyes will shift, her answers will be abrupt and clipped, and obviously, she’s seconds from bailing. However, you can avoid this if you have a humorous story that only indirectly ties in with sex, or you can try delving into the more intellectual and societal aspects of the topic. You could talk about the constantly changing night scene, how different women have drastically different viewpoints on the subject and you should do it all without risking the scary, creepy guy label. Just be light and casual, and be ready with an easy laugh.

Something taboo

Depending on the type of woman sitting next to you, you could try something taboo in an effort to seal the deal with no wasted words. However, before trying this, you need to establish a safe base of operations; you have to feel around to see if she’ll be receptive. The wrong woman can send a drink up your nose if you’re not careful, so take a few minutes to make the correct assessment. Once you’ve done this, and you think she’ll respond to your taboo topics with a sly grin and a wink, you can select from any number of sexy subjects. Perhaps it can be something simple, like the concept of “friends with benefits” (always a Player favorite), or you can launch into a more exotic tact that consists of threesomes, role-playing and fantasies. Again, though, do what you can to keep it light. If she latches on, the heat will indefinitely arrive later.

Conversation topics that lead to sex rely heavily on your ability to begin and carry a discussion, so that’s paramount. Regardless of the chosen topic, you need to be engaging, affable and, in the end, desirable. Obviously, not all women will respond in the same way, but with the preceding ideas, you should be able to spark a conversation that doesn’t officially end until the next morning.

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Top Ten of Signs She's Flirting

Flirting is an important behavior that is both complex and fundamental. Everyone in the world, at some point in their lives will need to acquaint themselves with the art of flirtation if they want to experience the pleasures of the opposite sex. While there are mountains of advice to guide men on how to flirt effectively, that’s only half the story.

Men must also be able to recognize the signs she's flirting. While any one of these visual cues taken alone often won't constitute a green light, a combination of multiple flirtatious cues should pique your interest.

So, we've decided to lay down some distinct signs she's flirting with you, so you can recognize the bait she's laid for your affections. Women can sometimes be hard to read, but if you're armed with a guide to signs she's flirting, then you're already one step ahead.

Sign #1 : She smiles

When a woman has an interest in you, her smile can hold your attention from across a crowded room and it is definitely one of the major signs she's flirting. It takes an effort on her part to do so, so if she’s exerting this kind of effort, engage in her flirting by returning the smile.

Sign #2 : She keeps walking by

If it seems like she continues to walk by with apparently no sense of why she’s there, she’s there for you. She’s trying to get you to notice her with this obvious sign she's flirting, and you need to say something endearing. By walking past repeatedly, perhaps out of her way, she’s giving you a sense that she wants your attention, but she's making you work for it.

Sign #3 : She draws attention to her mouth

A woman’s mouth can be extremely seductive, and she’s fully aware of this fact. Some of the effective signs she's flirting will have her applying lip gloss, running her finger across her lip or using the straw in her cocktail instead of just sipping from the glass. There is a tremendous amount of flirtatious energy tied up in a woman’s lips. Lips are flirting tools that are both potent and effective.

Sign #4 : She isolates herself

If, after having made eye contact, she strays from her pack, then she’s trying to flirt with you. Women know that the most difficult defense for a man to penetrate is her wall of friends and well-wishers. If she’s specifically removing herself from that fortress then this is one of the sure signs she's flirting and letting you know she’s lowering her defensive barriers to let you in.

Sign #5 : She mimics your body movements

For some reason, when human beings are interested or infatuated with each other, they begin to pick up certain traits from the other person. If she’s mimicking your mannerisms -- the way you hold a drink or the way you’re sitting -- she may very well be interested in gaining your attention and is giving you solid signs she's flirting. Imitation is a rather high form of flattery, after all.

Sign #6 : She plays with her hair

While relatively simple and commonplace, in the right hands a woman's hair is a versatile weapon. When trying to get your attention, she may twirl her hair in her fingers or let it cascade in front of one eye, adding a sense of come-hither mystery to her persona.

Sign #7 : She touches you

The slight touch that sends chills up both your spines and makes your hair stand on end is one of the hallmark signs she's flirting. When she reaches out and lightly touches your forearm or shoulder, hand or wrist, you know you have a live one. You need to reciprocate because there are few clearer signs she can provide.

Sign #8 : She makes eye contact

It has been said that the eyes are the windows to the soul, and that through the eyes truth can be gleamed. Eye contact is a sign of confidence and trust. She’s stating that she is not interested in games and that her intentions are straightforward. The duration of the eye contact is proportional to her level of initial interest.

Sign #9 : She enters your personal space

Personal space, by definition, is where others are not. When a woman enters this space, say, brushing past you with a glance and a smile, she’s inviting a response with this sure sign she's flirting. The caliber and character of her invasion will give you cues as to how you should respond.

Sign #10 : She approaches you to talk

Her approach may be closely tied to No. 2, but this cue takes it a step further. Cutting through any game she may be playing, her approach and specific engagement by speaking is playing her strongest flirting card. It allows her, while speaking to you, to maintain eye contact, play with her hair, lightly touch you, and mimic your mannerisms among other flirting techniques. If she’s come over to talk to you, she wants to know what you’re all about. It’s the first step in an interview process called dating.

While it may not seem like it to the average man, women flirt and spend as much time obsessing over their actions as their male counterparts. Since that’s the case, it would behoove any man to not only hone his own flirting skills, but sharpen his observational skills as well.

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Make Oral Sex Easy for HER

Going down is generally not a woman’s favorite part of sex, but it is often what a guy wants most. Your girl probably has plenty of excuses to avoid giving you head, most of them valid. So how can you make it easier and more pleasurable for her to give you a little oral action?

Mr. Clean

The most important thing you can do to make her more comfortable exploring your nether regions with her tongue is to clean yourself up. You may have had a shower in the morning, but by the time the evening rolls around you’ve likely used the bathroom a few times and perspired a bit, so it probably doesn’t smell or taste very good down there. For a longer and more enthusiastic oral sex session, make a point of washing up right before it begins. To avoid spoiling the mood, you could incorporate a mutual bath or shower into your foreplay.Don’t forget to keep yourself neat and trimmed down below. She doesn’t want to have to hack through a jungle of hair to get to the goods.

Get comfy

The location and position you place yourself in can make a huge difference in both your level of enjoyment and her comfort. You may like the idea of standing while she kneels in front of you, but eventually your knees are going to get wobbly and hers will start to hurt from being on the hard surface of the floor. So if you want the act to last longer and if you want to make oral sex easy for her, make sure you’re both relaxed and comfortable; the best position would probably be to have you on your back in bed while she kneels or lies beside you.

Prepare the taste

The majority of women prefer not to swallow semen, but your girlfriend may be persuaded if you make an effort to make your spunk taste better. A vegetarian diet is the best way to make your taste milder. If you’re not ready to go meatless, try eating foods like kiwi, watermelon, pineapple, and celery to lighten the taste. Make your semen taste sweeter by incorporating plums, blueberries and cranberries into your diet. Beer and coffee will make you taste bitter and dairy products can produce putrid tastes.

Sweeten the situation

If she still can’t take the taste, try covering it up! Use sweet and sexy foods as part your sex play. Any girl with a sweet tooth will enjoy licking chocolate sauce, whipped cream or other decadent foods off any and all parts of your body.

Don’t force it

Don’t push her head down to your crotch to indicate that you want oral sex. If she’s not going down there on her own, try telling her how much you’d like to feel her tongue on you. If she still doesn’t get the hint, just ask for what you want. Let her take control of the situation and keep your hands off her head, both of which will make oral sex easy for her. Forcing her into deep-throating or gagging her on purpose are tacky porn-star moves (unless you’re playing a dom/sub role-playing game in which the rules are well established beforehand).

Feedback and fair warning

Positive feedback is always welcome, and will help make oral sex easy for her. Your body language and the sounds you make will give her indications of how it feels to you, but if you want something specific changed, added or avoided, you’ll have to speak up. Make sure to phrase your suggestions properly, since almost everyone is sensitive when it comes to their sexual skills. Start by pointing out what she’s doing right and then tactfully share what you want.

When you’re ready to climax, give her fair warning. Let her know just before it happens, at least until she gets to know your particular responses and can guess for herself.

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Her Little-Girl Routine

There are times in almost every relationship when a man feels more like a parent than a partner. That's because many women retain, well into adulthood, some of the bad habits that they developed as children. Back when your wife or girlfriend was daddy's little girl, she acquired all sorts of tricks and schemes to use in her little-girl routine, which helped ensure that she always got her way. Her little-girl routine might have included tears, tantrums or baby talk.She had a series of strategies designed to manipulate father dearest, and those same strategies might, at some point, be used to manipulate you. You may think her little-girl routine is no big deal, but it's essential for guys to recognize that such childish behavior indicates neediness and must not be encouraged. Giving in to her little-girl routine now will only cause you bigger problems down the road as she becomes increasingly demanding and self-centered.

Her neediness
Neediness is the foundation of her little-girl routine. Initially, it might seem flattering when she calls you five times a day, but most guys know that this aspect of her little-girl routine gets old quickly.Neediness, as it relates to her little-girl routine, goes something like this: Whenever you're not around she tells you she's "lonely," and when you are around, she wants your undivided attention. You might convince yourself that she really does "need" you, but don't be fooled.The truth about neediness is that it’s a kind of selfishness; it indicates that she doesn't really care about you, your desires or your responsibilities. She's only thinking about herself.Deal with her little-girl routine: Set boundaries and stick to them: See her on Friday and have a boys' night out on Saturday. Have dinner with her on Tuesday and work late on Wednesday. Good girlfriends don't guilt trip. If she makes you feel guilty for every second you're not taking care of her, give your relationship a time-out.

Her tantrums
Every woman screams and yells occasionally, but a tantrum is different than your average female freak-out. A woman throwing a tantrum is entirely unreasonable and almost completely inconsolable, which is why we’ve classified it as part of her little-girl routine. She'll go nuclear over the smallest things and she'll appear to have no control over her emotions. She might even say hurtful things or tell you she hates you. Tantrums have one purpose: To make your life a living hell until you give her what she wants.Deal with her little-girl routine: Women, like children, use tantrums to get their way; therefore, the worst possible response is to cave in. You might think it's easier to give in than to put up with her screaming, but if you show her that screaming gets her what she wants, she'll just scream more often. Ignore tantrums at all costs.

Her crying
Women cry. We get that, but a woman working her little-girl routine will turn on the waterworks at strategic moments in order to manipulate you. Let's say you're upset with her and you need to communicate your dissatisfaction; she might use tears to get you to back off or to make you feel guilty for getting mad at her. Suddenly, instead of confronting her, you're comforting her.Deal with her little-girl routine: If she starts to cry, give her space and take a break. Tell her that you can finish your conversation once she's composed herself.

Her baby talk
Baby talk can be tricky, because it seems like a sign of intimacy. It might be funny or even adorable, but baby talk is just another aspect of her little-girl routine. It's almost impossible to have a serious conversation with her when one or both of you are talking like babies.Also, baby talk sucks all the sexual chemistry out of your relationship; her baby talk might be cute as she feeds you some birthday cake, but when she says how cute your penis is in her little-girl voice, you might end up with thoughts of pigtails and jump rope, which is a major blood-drainer.Deal with her little-girl routine: Don't initiate and don't reciprocate. While she may start the baby talk, it's important that you don't follow suit. It's trickier to cut back on baby talk once you've started, so just don't start.

Her pouting
Pouting can be the most frustrating aspect of her little-girl routine because if she doesn't get her way, she shuts down. She'll get sullen and quiet. She might abruptly cancel plans or refuse to leave the house.She deliberately makes herself unpleasant to be around as a means of punishing you for disappointing her. She might even pout in public, at a party or a club, which can be both irritating and embarrassing.Deal with her little-girl routine: Pouting must be ignored. Remember that she's trying to get attention and, specifically, she's trying to punish you for disappointing her. If she wants to be miserable, let her. You should socialize, go out and have a good time. Show her she does not dictate when you do and don't get to have fun.


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What Women Love And Hate About Anal

Anal sex is just one of those things: she either loves it, or she hates it. There is very little in between. Most women have tried it at some point, and a fair few of them will never dare again despite their hankering to be one of the "lucky ones" who love anal sex. The reason for this avoidance is clear: pain. If there was no pain, there was probably pleasure. Hence, love or hate.
It is true, however, that while you're trying to "get it right" there are likely to be some painful moments, practice makes perfect and it’s the ability to maneuver oneself and try different styles that allows anal sex to be pleasurable.
We've decided to let you in on what women love and hate about anal sex so you can enter the situation sufficiently informed and ready to rock her world.

The Allure of Anal Sex
For men and women, anal sex is a different, tighter sensation, it’s a little bit naughty and it provides some variety to normal sex. Anal sex has a tang of taboo attached to it, though this is falling away: The taboo status of anal sex gives it better credence among the adventuresome and timid alike, and this adds to its attraction. Once tried, however, anal sex can quickly lose its appeal for women (and some men). Here we will discuss some of the reasons why women love and hate anal sex.

Why Does She Love Anal Sex?
Let’s start with the positives:
Because anal sex feels good
Women love anal sex because it can feel absolutely incredible. It's different in sensation and it doesn’t feel like anything else she may have felt before -- it's deep inside, it's not her clitoris and is not in her vagina, but feels strangely like both in a sort of mixed-up combination in another part of her body. The rectum, once it’s ready, literally swallows the penis up and can’t get enough. The back passage transforms itself into a sexual playground. If the clitoris and/or vagina are stimulated while you are inside of her, it can take her to another sexual realm. Anal orgasms are possible.
Because anal sex is naughty
People love to be a little bit naughty sometimes, and anal sex is one of those things you can do completely privately, and nobody will ever know you were naughty except you and your partner -- which is part of the fun. It is also often a "first time for everything" type of activity which can also be nice -- doing something you've never done before, ever.

Why Does She Hate Anal Sex?
Now for what goes wrong:
Because anal sex hurts
Anal sex is not easy to master when you haven’t done it before. For a man it may seem straight forward -- in, out -- but it isn’t this simple. Women hate anal sex primarily because it hurts. It can cause cold sweats, shivers, extreme agony, and a massive chemical release into the blood stream that causes pain. This is highly unpleasant, but may be endured because
A) She wants to like it; and
B) She wants you to like it.
If you're not very careful, if you don’t warm her up properly, if you don’t go slowly enough, you will probably hurt her. This really minimizes your chances for trying anal sex again. Do your best every time and you have at least a fighting chance at having another go.
Because she's worried about a mess.
Anal sex is obviously a hot spot for mess. The idea that you could penetrate her butt and come out in a sticky situation is hugely embarrassing for her before it’s even happened, and for this reason she may avoid anal sex altogether. Women spend so much time making themselves look and smell beautiful that to have something ruin her hard work can be mildly devastating. Worrying about mess can be alleviated by using an anal douche before engaging in any anal play. Try taking a shower together too, and make sure her bowels are emptied at least an hour before starting.

Important Facts About Anal Sex
Lubricant is essential The anal canal does not produce its own lubricant, so it is imperative that you use a good quality lubricant in all your anal adventures. It is advisable to use a silicon-based lubricant because they tend to last longer and don’t dry up very quickly like some water-based lubricants do. Don’t use sticky petroleum-based products like Vaseline, as they clog up the walls of the rectum and are much too sticky.
Tease her It is very important that she is very turned on before you even go near her butt. When she's turned on, her body is much more open to you than if you she is only mildly turned on. She needs to be aching for you to touch her there. Then, when you start to touch her closer to her anus, she will respond with moans and groans instead of a tense grimace. Rub her body all over with oils, relax her, love her, adore her, and caress her. Get her to the point where she is begging you for it, and do this without putting a single thing in her -- tease, tease, tease. Anticipation is one of the greatest sexual tools we have -- use it to your advantage.
Condoms and hygiene Disease can be passed through unprotected sex -- this includes anal sex. The wall of the rectum is very thin and permeable. However, using condoms can be better for both partners, for other reasons. Women may not like to have a bottom full of semen, which quite frankly is a fair call. After the disruptions of anal sex, the semen mixes with the contents of the rectum and it can get a little "upset" in there. Using a condom avoids this trouble. Condoms may also protect the penis from any stray fecal matter, though this is generally not a problem, and if it does occur can be washed off easily with no harm done. Men may like to wear a condom so they last a bit longer -- the condom desensitizes the penis somewhat, and allows for longer lovemaking.

What Not To Do

Do not ever put your penis into a woman’s body without her express permission. Do not treat her body like a scoring device. She is not an object for you to ejaculate in or on, and if she is kind enough to share her beautiful butt with you, treat it with respect and be happy you were allowed close enough to breathe her in at all. Don’t ejaculate inside of her if requested not to. Don’t slam, jackhammer or be forceful either.

What To Always Do

Always use lube. Always wear a condom if requested to without acting like a baby. Do as you are asked at all times -- anal sex is a delicate situation and she needs to be able to trust you.
Gender presumptions and anal sex When a heterosexual couple thinks of anal sex, it is generally man-in-woman anal sex. To get a good understanding of what it's like -- and how to improve your performance -- it is necessary and helpful for you to open your mind to the possibility that anal sex is not something that only you do to your female lover, but something that you could do to each other. Scared yet? Don’t be. If it’s good for the goose, it’s good for the gander. Anal sex takes a lot of practice to perfect, and experimenting with one another is a fantastic way to deepen your connection and enhance your sex life and relationship. It does not have to involve sex toys. You can use fingers, tongues, oils, lubes, and any number of other things. Experiment, and let your own body be loved. It will pay off.

Backdoor Shenanigans

Anal sex is many things to many people. Do it right, and you’ll get to do it again. Do it wrong, and you may be doomed forever. Well, probably not forever but until she forgets how bad it was the first time around.

There are hundreds of anal sex guides online -- explicit instructions on how to do it right. If you read at least a dozen of them, you’ll probably have a good idea about how to start off. The best piece of advice we can give you is to make sure she is hot for it before you start. Then you really can’t lose.

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